Confussed#9999 mine was 100% waif too. Always working the victim/pity. He liked me to rub his head to make him feel better. One night while I was rubbing his head I was thinking to myself that this was more like I was in a relationship with a dog, always trying to keep it from peeing on the carpet.
I laughed out loud when I read this because it is so similar to my experience. I used to have to rub ex's back to help him sleep.
One of our kids (clearly his favorite) pets him on the head and treats him like she treats the dog and cats. He absolutely loves it. As long as we baby him, he is happy. He is very much a waif/hermit/victim.