Hi ShannonRB,
Getting divorced from your BPD spouse is not easy, and often painful. Have you filed? (Or has your spouse filed?) Any kids in the marriage?
Let us know how we can support you, and what kind of situation you're in. We also have a board for
people leaving BPD relationships where many of the senior members support members to detach and grieve a “BPD” relationship breakup, do a post mortem, process abandonment anxiety, and understand betrayal trauma.
The Lessons there can be very helpful for divorce recovery, too.
Please keep posting and let us know how you're doing. People here really do care, and understand. Many have walked in your shoes.
LnL