I resent you because you're perfect...

Does anyone else ever hear this? It's such a disgusting feeling to know someone has about you but I guess it sums up BPD pretty perfectly. The whole "I hate you, don't leave me" thing is getting to me.

Sex has become an issue once again, I can't be taken seriously in the bedroom because we haven't had sober sex in a long time and the only time she really lets her guard down is when she's high. High sex turns into farting while making out, laughing (not the I'm into this kind), and trying to find a time to work sex into the night because she has the munchies (obviously sex is still a chore, an obligation).

When it doesn't go right she never says ":)amn I want to so badly" it's always "I'm sorry, now you might go find someone else... . you wouldn't would you?"

I have been feeling really good about detaching and feeling good in general but how do you peeps deal with a lack of sexual chemistry and romance? I can't comprehend feeling good trying to initiate sexy time and always having it fizzle into her saying "I'm such a let down. other girls probably try to get with you all the time"



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