Hey Wave,
What is the things you worked on in yourself that made a difference?
Off the top of my head, there is more, and a lot I cant put words to, more of an attitude or feeling
I dont have to be right or have the last word
Stopped expecting people to be like me
Stopped assuming I "understood" everyone else, assumptions are just best guesses
Allowed others the right to screw up without judging
Allowed myself to screw up without judging me
Stopped making excuses for my own lack of action
I dont have to be in control of my emotions all the time
I can be anxious, stressed, depressed, angry, frustrated... . thats normal it will pass
I can only change me, which affects my environment and those around, so they have space to change themselves if they want to, without pressure from me
I do dumb things at time, thats ok, I like doing dumb things at times.
I make a lot of space and time, both physical and mental, for me so that I dont get too obsessed by what someone else is doing.
I allow myself to be selfish if I want to, without denying it to myself
Trying to make people like you often has the opposite effect
I have found myself to be more likeable if I stop trying to be.
Use the "Tools" on everyone not just those with PDs, so that it becomes normal and part of who you are
Saying No and having boundaries has gained me more respect, after the tantrum dies down!
Making a point of going away for weekends as much as possible, whether I feel like it or not, it always works out well.
I was, and did non of these 12 months ago. Instead I just felt sorry for myself and just wanted others to "understand'. They cant completely, its not their life, and if they did it would still not fix it, only validate my feeling of being hard done by and increase my sense of hopelessness
Its pretty amazing. You mostly summed up what i have learned here in these forums, and what i have been working on myself since i joined here last year.
