Cycling and the ability to hold a relationship

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I was dumped by my exBPD over a month and a half ago. It was totally random and I did not see it coming. She claimed that it had nothing to do with another man but I had my serious doubts. Over time I found that she was once again chasing her ex. She was obviously crazy about him though she claimed she was over it. During our time together she pretty much painted him black. When she dumped me she claimed to want to remain friends at which time I said it wouldn't be possible or a good thing. This is when I was painted black. I haven't heard anything from her other than an email containing a link to something I was interested in. This confuses me! If she is chasing after somebody else, why would she send me an email about something I am interested in after she specifically told me to leave her alone? Does this move have anything to do with keeping me hooked, while she goes through her current cycle with who she is chasing? I have been told she will be back around. I have noticed she hasn't been able to hold a lasting healthy relationship. Is there a certain length of time that has to elapse before a rotation from one person to another is made? I did however notice that she operated by the seasons. Her and I were great in the colder months and as soon as the warmer weather hit, she was gone! This happened twice. I have heard that weather alters our moods and perhaps those with BPD are more sensitive to it? Any input would be greatly appreciated!

[EyeCareSoMUCH]

I was dumped by my exBPD over a month and a half ago. It was totally random and I did not see it coming. She claimed that it had nothing to do with another man but I had my serious doubts. Over time I found that she was once again chasing her ex. She was obviously crazy about him though she claimed she was over it. During our time together she pretty much painted him black. When she dumped me she claimed to want to remain friends at which time I said it wouldn't be possible or a good thing. This is when I was painted black. I haven't heard anything from her other than an email containing a link to something I was interested in. This confuses me! If she is chasing after somebody else, why would she send me an email about something I am interested in after she specifically told me to leave her alone? Does this move have anything to do with keeping me hooked, while she goes through her current cycle with who she is chasing? I have been told she will be back around. I have noticed she hasn't been able to hold a lasting healthy relationship. Is there a certain length of time that has to elapse before a rotation from one person to another is made? I did however notice that she operated by the seasons. Her and I were great in the colder months and as soon as the warmer weather hit, she was gone! This happened twice. I have heard that weather alters our moods and perhaps those with BPD are more sensitive to it? Any input would be greatly appreciated!

[BorderlineMagnet]

If she does pop back up it will be when her new guy either get's too close, or too distant. Weather has nothing to do with it. That kind of dynamic really has no time table. It's inevitable for her though, because she will never be able to have a real relationship. Remember that, she will NEVER. So if she does come back be prepared for that stark reality. Unless you can play the most superhuman emotional balancing act in the world with her, she will just do the same to you again. Not saying this to be a downer, but it's just their nature. It's the disorder of not being able to handle the emotional challenges of a romantic relationship. On a side note both of my BPD ex-gfs popped back into my life in some fashion after exactly one month of being gone. More of a creepy coincidence than a time table to rely on.