getting better, I hope

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

well its been just over 3 months since the break up. I still have a few moments. Last week she reched out and it did bother me. BUt I quickly recovered after a day or so. In that past it would have drove me back to her or completely messed my mind up. so far it hasnt. Im sleeping better, Im not obsessing about her and what she doing or who she is doing it with. I think im finding some peace. I still play things over in my mind but mainly its beating myself up for falling for all her bs. I asked myself how could I do it? Why didnt I see it? and still why if she got the proper help would I even consider it again. I dont have to worry becuase she wont get the help, I know this. But still to even think I would go back with proper help is beyond my normal way of thinking. But i thinking im on the road to recovery. Im still prepared in my mind for her to try some things but at this point I dont think I care enough that it will bother me. Just wanted to share. thanks

[mitchell16]

well its been just over 3 months since the break up. I still have a few moments. Last week she reched out and it did bother me. BUt I quickly recovered after a day or so. In that past it would have drove me back to her or completely messed my mind up. so far it hasnt. Im sleeping better, Im not obsessing about her and what she doing or who she is doing it with. I think im finding some peace. I still play things over in my mind but mainly its beating myself up for falling for all her bs. I asked myself how could I do it? Why didnt I see it? and still why if she got the proper help would I even consider it again. I dont have to worry becuase she wont get the help, I know this. But still to even think I would go back with proper help is beyond my normal way of thinking. But i thinking im on the road to recovery. Im still prepared in my mind for her to try some things but at this point I dont think I care enough that it will bother me. Just wanted to share. thanks

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Mitch, Don't beat yourself up.  Just learn the lessons and move on.  It's normal to have fantasies that your Ex will get help and things will change entirely, but that is a highly unlikely scenario so don't hold your breath.  I think you are on the right path.  Lucky Jim

[Ironmanrises]

well its been just over 3 months since the break up. I still have a few moments. Last week she reched out and it did bother me. BUt I quickly recovered after a day or so. In that past it would have drove me back to her or completely messed my mind up. so far it hasnt. Im sleeping better, Im not obsessing about her and what she doing or who she is doing it with. I think im finding some peace. I still play things over in my mind but mainly its beating myself up for falling for all her bs. I asked myself how could I do it? Why didnt I see it? and still why if she got the proper help would I even consider it again. I dont have to worry becuase she wont get the help, I know this. But still to even think I would go back with proper help is beyond my normal way of thinking. But i thinking im on the road to recovery. Im still prepared in my mind for her to try some things but at this point I dont think I care enough that it will bother me. Just wanted to share. thanks

Mitchell... .

You are starting to heal.

It is evident... .

In your posts.

And that is a good sign. 

You are starting to see... .

Exactly... .

What has been happening to you.

And you are... .

Showing yourself... .

Self love.

We are here for you.

Keep posting.

Hang in there Mitchell.