Wow I want everyone to feel the way I feel today

[Century2012]

I woke up really happy! No angst. No ruminating. I am listening to music, drinking coffee. I hope this feeling about him ... .indifference ... .lasts forever.

I am sending out a prayer to all my "friends" here that you all feel this way real soon!

[DragoN]

Happy for you!  

[dansure]

I woke up really happy! No angst. No ruminating. I am listening to music, drinking coffee. I hope this feeling about him ... .indifference ... .lasts forever.

I am sending out a prayer to all my "friends" here that you all feel this way real soon!

I actually do too!  

Life starts to feel good again!

[HarmKrakow]

But I don't want to feel indifferent to my ex BPD

I don't feel indifferent to any of my NON-BPD exes'. I am very happy they were in my life. Same goes for the friends...

[Confusedandhurt]

Century-  Good for you!  Thanks for encouraging all of us.  It's great to see others moving forward with their lives!  Here's hoping your week will be as good as today has started... .

Every day seems to get a little better for me as well.

[happylogist]

So glad for you Century! Would love to share a cup of coffee with you listening to music and talking about something but exes

[hopealways]

Great to hear this! I do feel day by day I get closer to that feeling. My T says that when I am fully healed I will feel like I have never felt before. I know that is true and I am trying to be patient.

[fiddlestix]

Great news!  I love to hear that one of us is doing well   Healing can happen.  With patience, trust and hard inner work we can all enjoy that coffee and music!

Is there some special thing that you did to reach this point?  Or, as sometimes happens, did the storm just pass? 

Keep the coffee hot  

Fiddle

[Century2012]

Hey fiddlestix,

What did I do to get here? I prayed A LOT. And when I was having a good day I wholeheartedly expressed my gratitude. And I prayed that he might have peace. Rather than continuing to hate him, to see that he is a damaged person.

I also talked about it with a friend. He dated a woman for 3 years that none of us liked. He did a lot for her and feels some shame for having been in that relationship. He could listen without judgment.

But the thing that is making the most difference is dreaming. I don't know how to make that happen. But in the throws of my anger and depression, I thought about him all the time. But he was never in my dreams.

They say dreams help us process. The dreams aren't necessarily pleasant. But it is processing. Kind of like getting the file off your desk and put away in storage.