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Skills we were never taught
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A 3 Minute Lesson
on Ending Conflict
Communication Skills-
Don't Be Invalidating
Listen with Empathy -
A Powerful Life Skill
Setting Boundaries
and Setting Limits
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co.jo
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« on: January 06, 2014, 11:57:39 AM »

I was always reading about triangulating on here and thinking it didn't really apply to my situation as my daughter wasn't speaking to me anyway. This morning reading another post, I realized that is exactly what she has done, she is not in contact because apparently I have not done enough to get her siblings to accept her. There are the three points,me, her and the sibs, don't know how I missed it. Now I will have to research that, and see any suggestions.
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Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders
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« Reply #1 on: January 06, 2014, 09:10:13 PM »

Have you checked out the tool link to the right? It gives a really good definition and link to a workshop. Maybe you can figure out a way to be a positive influence in this triangle -- as long as you can keep taking care of yourself along the way.

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« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2014, 09:57:26 PM »

... . don't know how I missed it. Now I will have to research that, and see any suggestions.

Doing the right thing (click to insert in post) Good for you! Those moments are really rewarding - gaining more understanding gives us more to work with. Let us know what you think about your new findings, ok?

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