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« on: January 14, 2014, 04:13:23 PM »

Hi folks-

Coming over from the previous board. I don't feel like rehashing what my xhwBPD did to me any more. I think I got it all out of my system, and got myself the validation I so desperately needed. I finally felt heard and understood.

But now I'm moving on. I've accepted that my xhwpbd is gone, and is never coming back, and is not going to get well, and that it's none of my business any more.

I'm ready to start living again. Gonna get back to the me before this marriage, maybe even a better version of me.

Lyn
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« Reply #1 on: January 14, 2014, 07:07:47 PM »

Lyn... . I hear you, this is where the healing is. I go to the staying board and try to give back a little. Don't really know how much it helps. Watching all the new arrivals is scary. It's like some kind of psychological weapon is out of control. I had no idea. Comforting to know I'm not alone in this healing but the similarities in stories are a little frightening.
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« Reply #2 on: January 14, 2014, 07:18:42 PM »

Hi folks-

Coming over from the previous board. I don't feel like rehashing what my xhwBPD did to me any more. I think I got it all out of my system, and got myself the validation I so desperately needed. I finally felt heard and understood.

But now I'm moving on. I've accepted that my xhwpbd is gone, and is never coming back, and is not going to get well, and that it's none of my business any more.

I'm ready to start living again. Gonna get back to the me before this marriage, maybe even a better version of me.

Lyn

It's like coming to sit at the adult table now, huh 

So, this board is all in what you make of it - what do you want to do here?
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« Reply #3 on: January 14, 2014, 07:23:50 PM »

It's really not one or the other either.  I like posting on the newbie board to offer hope and the leaving board to offer encouragement and whatever wisdom I've gleaned, and then PI because it's all about me now; my needs for validation, empathy and connection get met all over.
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« Reply #4 on: January 14, 2014, 11:19:07 PM »

I'm ready to start living again. Gonna get back to the me before this marriage, maybe even a better version of me.

Good for you!  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

It's interesting that you start out posting about him and then you end up here posting about you. Your story was always about you from the start, so now what are your plans for your next chapter? Hope it's a great one!  
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« Reply #5 on: January 14, 2014, 11:35:37 PM »

Congrats Lyn, I'm really pleased to hear about your progress and wish you the very best for your brighter future, you sincerely deserve it 

Perfidy, I've noticed the increase too. Either more people are breaking free from the chains and finding sites like this or there is something in the water 

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« Reply #6 on: January 16, 2014, 05:39:53 PM »

Coming over from the previous board. I don't feel like rehashing what my xhwBPD did to me any more. I think I got it all out of my system, and got myself the validation I so desperately needed. I finally felt heard and understood. ... . But now I'm moving on. I've accepted that my xhwpbd is gone, and is never coming back, and is not going to get well, and that it's none of my business any more. ... . I'm ready to start living again. Gonna get back to the me before this marriage, maybe even a better version of me.

hi love4meNOTu  sounds you're doing great inner work.  welcome!   
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« Reply #7 on: January 30, 2014, 09:15:07 AM »

I'm ready to start living again. Gonna get back to the me before this marriage, maybe even a better version of me.

Sounds awesome, I'm happy for you.  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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