Help with a few niggling questions

[Paul M]

I'm 6 week nc after my ex gf drastically tried dump me by phone the morning of her birthday.

So I turned it round on her and told her not to ever contact me again and put the phone down. We haven't spoke since.

I heard that birthdays are trigger days for them why and is this true?

Looking back on the r/sI can say she was never violent at all she got a little angry raised her voice etc now and again. She used to go weird normally after sex a silent different mood and I always knew something was wrong. I think this is a symptom of BPD?

She was very harsh and unsympathetic to men also and admitted it.

She used to say I don't want to be your everything? what the heck she wasn't I told her.

She told me about her ex treating her so bad but it wasn't he's thought it was hers( maybe she painting him white again) etc all sob stories. She ended up taking overdose and going on anti depressants etc .

A few days b4 she devalued me we went out for her bday had a great time, we got back to mine and she brakes down about her ex and about another groping incident that happened a few week before I got with her in a taxi and how it was going to court til a few days before and the police dropped the case. Then we argued over sex( I had a injury down there so for 3 wks  was unable to ) she was trying to rape me b 4 now sob stories .so I just went bed. Sunday all hungover big family meal. Then I arrange to see her weds and get they call. what the heck too much at once.


It's mad How you look back and can see all sorts of little lies everywhere

[Want2know]

My guess is that birthdays and holidays typically are reminders of family gatherings which can affect those who do not have strong family connections or have memories of those days from the past that were not pleasant (ie. disappointment).

In general, there have been reported increases in people seeking professional help during these times.

Personally, my ex could never make through a holiday or birthday without having some kind of major breakdown. 

[HealingForMe]

I agree with Want2know. Things like birthdays & esp Xmas are reminders of what a "normal" childhood is like, which they often didnt have, so its a trigger.

Sex was sometimes also a trigger for my BPDexgf (she was molested as a child).

Also, every full moon I begin worrying. There's a reason "lunar" & "lunacy" have the same language base. For 1000s of years, its been known there's a link between the full moon & heightened levels of more extreme activity. Even hospital ERs have noticed this. My BPDexgf's behaviour often became more extreme at this time, incl several hospital visits. Its no joke!