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« on: April 13, 2014, 10:22:36 PM »

Just found out today that my borderline ex girlfriend is talking to her boyfriend that she was with for 5 years before me... . I am sad about it because during our whole relationship I was compared to him and insecure about him simply because she told me how much she loved him and missed him. In fact when ever we heard the Katy perry song "The one that got away" she told me she always thought of him. I should've run right then and there but I stayed for 2 and a half years. Im mostly over her but this hurts because of how tortured I was when we were together over him. She left him but regretted it I think... . :'(
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« Reply #1 on: April 13, 2014, 11:43:17 PM »

Just found out today that my borderline ex girlfriend is talking to her boyfriend that she was with for 5 years before me... . I am sad about it because during our whole relationship I was compared to him and insecure about him simply because she told me how much she loved him and missed him. In fact when ever we heard the Katy perry song "The one that got away" she told me she always thought of him. I should've run right then and there but I stayed for 2 and a half years. Im mostly over her but this hurts because of how tortured I was when we were together over him. She left him but regretted it I think... . :'(

Well... . this is what they do. They triangulate and play one guy off another... . and another in order to control you, so you walk away with ptsd... . they wear you down, suck your mo-jo out and spit on the floor... then they laugh at your pain. And if you whine and cry and beg they will be colder and pull away faster.

btw she didnt regret anything. They dont regret. They use... . and recycle and there isnt enough dick in the world to fill their empty empathy lacking souls. Im to the point where I dont give a ___ how abused they were at the age of 2-7. As an adult, KNOWING that something is OFF in their heads, stop ___ing hurting everyone they meet. Do something about it. Im angry.  ugh.

Yeah... mine just got back with her ex of 4 years... . again for the 30th time. Lied out of her as$ to me about him and others.  All the horror stories Ive heard about him. But shes in love and very happy and has moved on.  Whatever. I broke NC today after a month and a half and feel like an idiot.
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« Reply #2 on: April 15, 2014, 07:23:35 AM »

I love reading your comments split back, you say it like it is, no bull___.

I am far too wrapped up in her f**king sob story. Even after she has ruined me. She showed me absolutely no compassion or empathy yet I beat myself up in trying to understand the idiosyncrasies of her disorder.

At the end, I believe they do know they are going to hurt us, and they still choose to. So fu*k em.
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« Reply #3 on: April 16, 2014, 09:33:37 AM »

Well... . this is what they do. They triangulate and play one guy off another... . and another in order to control you, so you walk away with ptsd... . they wear you down, suck your mo-jo out and spit on the floor... then they laugh at your pain. And if you whine and cry and beg they will be colder and pull away faster.

btw she didnt regret anything. They dont regret. They use... . and recycle and there isnt enough d##k in the world to fill their empty empathy lacking souls. Im to the point where I dont give a ___ how abused they were at the age of 2-7. As an adult, KNOWING that something is OFF in their heads, stop ___ing hurting everyone they meet. Do something about it. Im angry.  ugh.

Yeah... mine just got back with her ex of 4 years... . again for the 30th time. Lied out of her as$ to me about him and others.  All the horror stories Ive heard about him. But shes in love and very happy and has moved on.  Whatever. I broke NC today after a month and a half and feel like an idiot.

I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling, it's difficult and that you are in a lot of pain Split black.

Triangulation is like a three legged stool. You remove one leg and the stool collapses. You have control of your actions.

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« Reply #4 on: April 16, 2014, 01:14:39 PM »

Well... . this is what they do. They triangulate and play one guy off another... . and another in order to control you, so you walk away with ptsd... . they wear you down, suck your mo-jo out and spit on the floor... then they laugh at your pain. And if you whine and cry and beg they will be colder and pull away faster.

btw she didnt regret anything. They dont regret. They use... . and recycle and there isnt enough d##k in the world to fill their empty empathy lacking souls. Im to the point where I dont give a ___ how abused they were at the age of 2-7. As an adult, KNOWING that something is OFF in their heads, stop ___ing hurting everyone they meet. Do something about it. Im angry.  ugh.

Yeah... mine just got back with her ex of 4 years... . again for the 30th time. Lied out of her as$ to me about him and others.  All the horror stories Ive heard about him. But shes in love and very happy and has moved on.  Whatever. I broke NC today after a month and a half and feel like an idiot.

I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling, it's difficult and that you are in a lot of pain Split black.

Triangulation is like a three legged stool. You remove one leg and the stool collapses. You have control of your actions.

Well, you remove one leg and they replace it with a new one.
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« Reply #5 on: April 16, 2014, 06:04:31 PM »

Well... . this is what they do. They triangulate and play one guy off another... . and another in order to control you, so you walk away with ptsd... . they wear you down, suck your mo-jo out and spit on the floor... then they laugh at your pain. And if you whine and cry and beg they will be colder and pull away faster.

btw she didnt regret anything. They dont regret. They use... . and recycle and there isnt enough d##k in the world to fill their empty empathy lacking souls. Im to the point where I dont give a ___ how abused they were at the age of 2-7. As an adult, KNOWING that something is OFF in their heads, stop ___ing hurting everyone they meet. Do something about it. Im angry.  ugh.

Yeah... mine just got back with her ex of 4 years... . again for the 30th time. Lied out of her as$ to me about him and others.  All the horror stories Ive heard about him. But shes in love and very happy and has moved on.  Whatever. I broke NC today after a month and a half and feel like an idiot.

I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling, it's difficult and that you are in a lot of pain Split black.

Triangulation is like a three legged stool. You remove one leg and the stool collapses. You have control of your actions.

Well, you remove one leg and they replace it with a new one.

She wanted something from me yesterday. Money. And something else. The whole time telling me how in love she is with her ex of 4 years that she cheated on with me and others. Mostly me. After i drive away she txted me most of the night. Told me ti call her when i return from the trip im on. For what?

More abuse? She just doesnt get it. Its amazing. Im out. Im so done.
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« Reply #6 on: April 16, 2014, 06:39:34 PM »

She wanted something from me yesterday. Money. And something else. The whole time telling me how in love she is with her ex of 4 years that she cheated on with me and others. Mostly me. After i drive away she txted me most of the night. Told me ti call her when i return from the trip im on. For what?

More abuse? She just doesnt get it. Its amazing. Im out. Im so done.

That's tough, hearing about the ex, wanting money from you, that's painful.

Entitlement. My ex is in Queen role, I agree, be indifferent, depersonalize the behavior. It takes time.
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