Hi matilda,
Now I contacted her again today thinking she may have calmed down. But she hasn't. She says she has nothing to apologise for and that she doesn't care that I was upset. She resents me for telling her what to do. She won't discuss it with me so I can explain or make it better but she keeps insisting I have ruined her weekend and that my immaturity and insecurity have ruined her weekend. I honestly want to discuss it properly. Maturely. Without aggression.
She is reluctant to say or do anything to make the situation better. Then all of a sudden invites me to come hang out with her and her friend. I am like 'what? why?' but now I am the bad guy because I didn't want to go and hang out and pretend we weren't fighting and that she had in fact hurt me.
What do I do? Am I crazy? I can't tell if I did anything wrong or what had happened? It all gets very confusing very quickly. She is the master of distraction and confusing. Any advice would be great. Thanks.
it would be great if we would be able to discuss our conflicts and draw conclusions that avoid them in the future. The nature of BPD makes it very difficult to do this together. The best advice can be found in the LESSONS and it centers around the premise that we only control ourselves and can work on our side. Won't solve all problems but it can help a lot to reduce conflicts.