"We've had this converation a million times... "

[BacknthSaddle]

I wanted to see if any of you have had this experience.  I am NC with my uBPDxgf (had a relapse recently, but feeling more confident about my ability to maintain now), and during the conversation, I foolishly brought up something about the nature of our relationship, how serious she was, etc.  This time, and when I had done that in the past, after saying something hurtful she will then say "I feel like we have had this conversation a million times."  The truth is that we have, but 1/2 the time I get one response and 1/2 the time I get its exact opposite. 

I know it's foolish to get into these conversations in the first place, which is why I'm not going to anymore.  But I wanted to know if this or anything similar was an experience people shared, having a discussion repeatedly and getting a different answer each time, but then being treated like the whole thing was settled and you're crazy for bringing it up. 

[Waifed]

I usually got one of three different responses. 1. "I don't want to talk about this right now". 2. "I'm tired of fighting". I don't want to talk about this anymore. 3. "You're making me mad.

When I confronted her about cheating she said "Well you were f%cking xxxxx".  This is someone I was with prior to even dating her. No logic whatsoever.

She really wasn't capable of having a grown up "debate" so I pretty much stopped trying. It was much worse when she was dysregulated. I wish I had known about BPD while we were dating.

[Want2know]

I know it's foolish to get into these conversations in the first place, which is why I'm not going to anymore.   

Smart idea. 

Being this is a disorder that is based in having problems with regulating emotions and thoughts, as well as being impulsive, it's not surprising that there was a lack of consistency in her responses.