You have no idea who that song is meant for... . and in reality it doesn't matter. You going to her page and analyzing this stuff to death is what matters. And I've been there. It'll get better, but you have to commit to No Contact and eventually dating other women.
So true Johnny Alias! It is good to highlight and remember us of that!
Must say it is a process to get to this stage, been there too, already in that r/s when I had the confidence to change matters in order to grow old together and it worked for a couple of years.
Well, the disorder wins, always…
Discovered however
when we say “they are like a 4 yr. old”,
we must also realize that a 4 yr. old acts upon impulse. As a BPD is a an adult with normal social skills, vocabulary, etc. we get confused up to total unbelive of what is happening.
As Cosmonaut writes, it is a nightmare. I am more than 3yrs. out now, but in a way secretly hoping to finish that path as parents, later grandparents, which is totally wishful thinking.
One thing I realized is a lot of the things they will post on social media have double meanings. Like the love song could be for multiple people at once.
All post of FB (except those in special closed groups) are a show of for the (wonderful) activities one undertakes. We visited ABC / We partied at DEF, etc.
It is the social pressure those on social media feel themselves to like, comment, to show “I belong too”.
If not, one is considered “weird”, not social.
Did you see posts, or do you post such as:
“my GF had an outburst and deliberately broke my favourite XYZ”
“I grieved and cried whole evening about my ex”
“I saw my ex and couldn’t sleep the whole night”
It is not “social correct behaviour”, not “social accepted behaviour”.
Maybe I am confronting in a harsh way, it is not meant to be.
It is to see the perspective, not all we see is linked to a PD, the words written by Johnny are spot on.
We do not have any idea, and it doesn’t matter actually.
WE matter that is the long painful and lonely road for us to walk…