I was right and made the right choice

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

A bit of a revelation... .I hope it sticks.

I was right to leave my ex. Her latest blow out with another failed relationship just proves it again. And she will cycle through it over and over again.

I asked her if she had any regrets. She told me she regretted not behaving in a good way and that she was passive aggressive with me and that she didn't break up with me sooner before her behavior got out of hand.

My instincts were correct. I was right to leave. I chose to be with another person who would treat me with kindness and respect.

My biggest fear and anxiety is that I won't be able to trust my instincts when it comes to my ex. I won't be able to listen to my gut. My body is freaking out. It knows this person is destructive to herself and partners.

I made the right choice. I need to stick to it.

[willy45]

A bit of a revelation... .I hope it sticks.

I was right to leave my ex. Her latest blow out with another failed relationship just proves it again. And she will cycle through it over and over again.

I asked her if she had any regrets. She told me she regretted not behaving in a good way and that she was passive aggressive with me and that she didn't break up with me sooner before her behavior got out of hand.

My instincts were correct. I was right to leave. I chose to be with another person who would treat me with kindness and respect.

My biggest fear and anxiety is that I won't be able to trust my instincts when it comes to my ex. I won't be able to listen to my gut. My body is freaking out. It knows this person is destructive to herself and partners.

I made the right choice. I need to stick to it.

[1989]

This is all you need to remember:

I don't get anything from this relationship. Nothing. I don't get any validation. I don't get any comfort. I get no sleep. I can't eat. I smoke like a fish (I'm assuming fish smoke but have never actually seen it). I get super pessimistic about life. She drags me down. She is drowning. And she is dragging me down to be with her. This makes no sense. I really don't get any benefits whatsoever.

[willy45]

Yes. Terrific point. Thanks! There really isn't anything that I get out of contact with her.

[BacknthSaddle]

Dude, in proud if you. We're all fighting against misguided desires.  Life is long. You've made the right choice.

[x1985x]

Exactly brother, let those thoughts take root. It's true, so true, we can't ever really be happy knowing what we know about them. They are time bombs, only they blow up repeatedly, and they never stop. There was so little healthy love from mine, only being away from her for the past few months has really shown me what I don't have to deal with anymore.

Life goes on and it can be even better and rewarding for us, it will be. Just think about how rewarding her life is, no real love or connections, manipulating, blaming, burning bridges, feeling empty and alone no matter the circumstances... .we have the advantage, always. Know that my brother, we don't live the way they do and wouldn't want to if we were in their shoes for even a day.