The more I read these posts, the more I marvel at the similarities in all of our relationships.
My xBPDh left after spending 8 years remodelling my house into a dream home for us. We had just bought another property that was to be our home when my kids had left home and we could retire. Everything was finally settling down for us and our future was all planned out. It was finally a time that we could enjoy and relax as we had no problems (except those he caused in order to end our marriage).
I can't understand it either. It's like they can't stand a normal, peaceful life and have to escape into some kind of drama, but they go to such lengths to fool us into believing everything is ok right up until the minute they leave.
Wow, so similar to my experience! My exBPD had never had a "home" before (just living at different renting places her whole life) - So we bought a home together after almost 2 yr of renting together, she got so happy ("Finally I have my own keys, and this is our place, and i share it with my soul mate, i am so happy - I have found my dream man and my dream home!". She decorated the whole place as she had dreamed of her entire life, our home just got PERFECT and our "calm and happy days" was ready to finally begin, then BOOM woke up same day as we got our names on the post-box and dumped me and never looked back.
It seems like they have so much trouble inside their mind, that they always need that issue or problem to focus on, like their job sucks / home sucks / studies sucks, and if we give them everything and make their dream come true, they still have those issues in their mind, and can't just relax and enjoy it, so they run instead...
