Ex Just Messeged Me - Wants Cigarettes and Soda

[nowwhatz]

I wasn't sure whether to post this news in the thread about the most heartless thing the BPDers have done to us.

Out of the the blue I get a FB message from the exBPDgf saying "comprame soda y cigarros pls?"

Gimmie a break!

Don't know whether to laugh or cry but no I am not replying.

I suppose this request sums up the essence of the r/s from her point of view.

[Mutt]

Hi nowwhatz,



I think you couldn't of said it better when you said "it's out of the blue" - it's BPD. I'm sorry it's insulting.

[fromheeltoheal]

Well, I guess treating you like a waiter is one way to test an attachment.  Gotta give her credit for being direct.  Please act accordingly.

[nowwhatz]

Hi nowwhatz,



I think you couldn't of said it better when you said "it's out of the blue" - it's BPD. I'm sorry it's insulting.

Yeah pretty insulting geez.  i am tempted to reply with a request of my own on what she would have to do for me for the soda and cigarettes but trying to take the high road... .but if she does it again I don't think I will be very nice.

[peiper]

Personally I think this is them appealing to the rescuer that it seems most of us are. My exBPDw had the inventory of my weak links down within a few weeks, which one of them was the white knight. She always needed rescued when she wanted to 're engage.

[Mutt]

Hi nowwhatz,



I think you couldn't of said it better when you said "it's out of the blue" - it's BPD. I'm sorry it's insulting.

Yeah pretty insulting geez.  i am tempted to reply with a request of my own on what she would have to do for me for the soda and cigarettes but trying to take the high road... .but if she does it again I don't think I will be very nice.

If you give her your own request, you're giving her what she wants - attention.

I agree. Take the high road.

[nowwhatz]

Well, I guess treating you like a waiter is one way to test an attachment.  Gotta give her credit for being direct.  Please act accordingly.

Yeah she is a real doozy. So can I reply by telling her there needs to be a soda/cigarettes for sexual favors arrangement?   Maybe she would feel less guilty later.

[nowwhatz]

Hi nowwhatz,



I think you couldn't of said it better when you said "it's out of the blue" - it's BPD. I'm sorry it's insulting.

Yeah pretty insulting geez.  i am tempted to reply with a request of my own on what she would have to do for me for the soda and cigarettes but trying to take the high road... .but if she does it again I don't think I will be very nice.

If you give her your own request, you're giving her what she wants - attention.

I agree. Take the high road.

I will try. Thanks!

[nowwhatz]

Personally I think this is them appealing to the rescuer that it seems most of us are. My exBPDw had the inventory of my weak links down within a few weeks, which one of them was the white knight. She always needed rescued when she wanted to 're engage.

Mine likes white knights too. But she likes diet cherry dr pepper and camel crush blue better.

&%$#@#$

[downwhim]

yes, they definitely devalue us.

[Panda39]

It's not worth responding to.  Don't engage.

She's just poking you with a stick to see what you do... .do nothing.