interesting insight from my T

[dobie]

So that last session we had my T asked me what was it about my possible xBPDfiance

That reminded me of my mother (he has diagnosed me with childhood trauma ) that has expressed itself in rage / depression through  my life ... .

Of course I went with the usual "are you saying I want to have sex with my mother" "was im trying to win my mothers love"

Apparently it was neither she enabled me to rage to express that side of me that angry hurt 5 year old to keep him alive and that also on a subconscious level I knew she would leave

Thereby keeping the child part of my psyche intact and not allowing him to die as the adult blossomed .



Powerful

[Seriously?]

I can't remember the name of the theory, but it's basically that we can be in tact healthy adults, but other parts of us are triggered by circumstances and people at times. There is the wounded child, the joyful child, the nurturing parent, and the punitive parent, as well as some in-betweens. Learning about that was powerful to me like what your T asked you was powerful to you. It takes some self-awareness to practice recognizing which part of you has come out to play with others. I am mostly healthy adult Seriously?, but I am often nurturing parent. It's when hurt child comes out that I run into trouble.  I desperately look for nurturing parent in someone else. Very often I am disappointed because most people I interact with are looking for adult Seriously. I understand,  too, that pwBPD are mostly hurt child, so me playing nurturing parent, which is a very natural role for me, kind of draws them to me in thee first place. I am sorry to hear you have dealt with depression and rage. I hope you are learning good coping skills from your T.

[jhkbuzz]

I can't remember the name of the theory, but it's basically that we can be in tact healthy adults, but other parts of us are triggered by circumstances and people at times. There is the wounded child, the joyful child, the nurturing parent, and the punitive parent, as well as some in-betweens. Learning about that was powerful to me like what your T asked you was powerful to you. It takes some self-awareness to practice recognizing which part of you has come out to play with others. I am mostly healthy adult Seriously?, but I am often nurturing parent. It's when hurt child comes out that I run into trouble.  I desperately look for nurturing parent in someone else. Very often I am disappointed because most people I interact with are looking for adult Seriously. I understand,  too, that pwBPD are mostly hurt child, so me playing nurturing parent, which is a very natural role for me, kind of draws them to me in thee first place. I am sorry to hear you have dealt with depression and rage. I hope you are learning good coping skills from your T.

Schema therapy, very powerful stuff.

[Clearmind]

If you want to do a schema questionnarie check this link: Schema Mode Inventory 1.1  and   Schema Mode Inventory 1.1 Scoring Information. I encourage you to look through the schema test and think about posting on the personal inventory board.

It's great you are seeing a T. Discuss the results with him/her too

You're on the road to healing my friend. For me, I needed to grasp my own childhood conditioning to really understand why I chose to attach to a Borderline.

All the best