I'm not responding because I'm better at it; I'm responding because I've always been a bit confused by it myself. That article is clear and easy to understand!
It is an eye opener. I am a problem solver, very logical and unemotional. Comes from years in law enforcement. W voices how she feels, I automatically try to solve the problem. This does not work out too well.
BPDw, like most pwBPD, is HIGHLY emotional. Makes communication extremely difficult.