I want to join waverider and unicorn in saying hi.
I see how u say setting a good example on how to handle the disorder, i dont really set a good example. I still get upset and try and make him see reason of which he never does, then he starts bashing his head against the windows and I hear my daughter ask me if I'm ok and it breaks my heart that she feels concerned for me. Is a good example just going along with his lies so he doesnt explode?
There is a surprising amount to learn about being in a relationship with a person who suffers from BPD. I wanted to show you this link as a good place to start.
The Do's and Don'ts for a BP relationshipThe rest of the links can be found in the LESSONS box that runs down the right hand side of the screen.
What the experts tell us is that pwBPD suffer from thought instability which tends to display as an intense belief in their own perceptions despite facts to the contrary. Depending on the circumstances, you find something in those perceptions that is valid, and respond to that. The process is called validation and we talk about it a lot here. It takes some practice. And some getting used to. Keep reading and posting there is a lot on this site.
'ducks
