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shinyredshoes
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« on: October 17, 2015, 11:41:10 PM »

I am trying to get help with a family member (husband) who ignores me when I do things he doesn't like and belittles me any chance he gets. Everyone loves him and thinks very highly of him. He is like a chameleon around others including his family and mine. I need help.
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« Reply #1 on: October 18, 2015, 10:17:55 AM »

Hi shinyredshoes,

Welcome

I am sorry that you are going through this.    It is frustrating and hurtful when someone we love belittles and ignores us. After awhile it really chips away at your self-esteem. I can imagine how frustrating it is that everyone thinks highly of him when he is saying hurtful things.

What types of things does he say when he belittles you?

I am looking forward to reading your response.  Smiling (click to insert in post)






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« Reply #2 on: October 19, 2015, 09:30:15 AM »

Hi SRS,

it can be very disorienting when someone is behaving on way in public and another in private. Abuse works well in the dark. After being exposed to abuse for a longer while it gets hard to find a way to stand up effectively.

Can you tell us more on how it is happening and how you are handling it so far?

Welcome,

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