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[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Well its been 10days nc since she said the relationship was over claiming that the trust had been broken. Kinda strange as she was the one who called the police 7 weeks ago, invented a fictitious dv incident to have me thrown out of my apartment. When the police realised it was my place they escorted her to our friends. I was in shock at her trying to get me arrested so wouldn't talk to her until she apologised and got the charges lifted. Instead she chose to go to her home country. She then abused me daily but gathered the support of her friends through her stories of violent abuse even claiming id raped her. Meanwhile she kept getting money from me claiming she was seeking medical help, all lies ive found out that she has been out drinking. Her doctor asked me to close our bank acct as her bp,BPD, naurcisism and schizophrenia is escalating and i am enabling it. The day after id closed the account she called the relationship off.

Now i am left in pieces again with no closure as one of the things she said was that she was not interested in dating nor should i as she is focused on getting better. Again push pull me but with her holding strong on the nc i feel i need closure to under stand if she is for real this time. I am blocked so i cannot communicate with her but this is the longest we have ever been nc. When we were together she would call me 6 times a day.

Does anyone have experience of being painted this black then split off and what may happen.

[jq46810]

Well its been 10days nc since she said the relationship was over claiming that the trust had been broken. Kinda strange as she was the one who called the police 7 weeks ago, invented a fictitious dv incident to have me thrown out of my apartment. When the police realised it was my place they escorted her to our friends. I was in shock at her trying to get me arrested so wouldn't talk to her until she apologised and got the charges lifted. Instead she chose to go to her home country. She then abused me daily but gathered the support of her friends through her stories of violent abuse even claiming id raped her. Meanwhile she kept getting money from me claiming she was seeking medical help, all lies ive found out that she has been out drinking. Her doctor asked me to close our bank acct as her bp,BPD, naurcisism and schizophrenia is escalating and i am enabling it. The day after id closed the account she called the relationship off.

Now i am left in pieces again with no closure as one of the things she said was that she was not interested in dating nor should i as she is focused on getting better. Again push pull me but with her holding strong on the nc i feel i need closure to under stand if she is for real this time. I am blocked so i cannot communicate with her but this is the longest we have ever been nc. When we were together she would call me 6 times a day.

Does anyone have experience of being painted this black then split off and what may happen.

[JohnLove]

Hello jq46810, with a pwBPD the sky is the limit. Protect yourself. Do it now.

[AsGoodAsItGets]

 . Understand you dodged a bullet.  All the other emotions .  Hold off on, just protect yourself.  Imagine if one of those people believe her, and help her with legal action, your life could become very difficult.  Sorry.  She has a mental illness.  Normally talking how your feeling and support is the best thing, but when ever legal, or police.  No.  You need to be real and know this is to risky.  Please protect yourself first.  We are here.  I am so sorry.  It not fair, you sound like a nice guy.