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I'm going to have plenty of reading time soon (hospital stay + post op) and I would be keen to learn of any personal recommendations for reading.
I know bpdfamily has an approved reading list, and I hope my asking for personal 'likes' will not go against any forum rules.
So if you have any suggestions on the world of BPD, NPD, PDs in general, attachment, (Co-D I'm pretty good on), even novels that seem relevant I would be keen to hear your ideas.
Many thanks EG
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Personally, I'd avoid getting to indulgent in the literature specifically surrounding these disorders, but that's just where I'm at. Reading Derrida or some other deconstructionist work might offer a cool perspective. And of course, both Freud and Lacan say some interesting things if you're willing to look beyond their biases to a certain degree and reflect on the core principles they try to establish. Kleinian object relations would be a close theoretical survey of all the attachment stuff—considered highly topical when thinking about cluster b disorders. But all of this should be taken with a grain of salt. Modern neuropsychology (and neuroscience) has not even gotten close to confirming any of these postulations.
As for fiction, one relatively new book comes to mind: You Too Can Have a Body Like Mine, by Alexandra Kleeman.
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I'm currently reading "The mindful path to self-compassion" by Christopher Germer.
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Hey earlgrey,
Here are some books that I've found helpful, even though they don't address BPD directly:
1. Iron John, by Robert Bly;
2. Wherever You Go, There You Are, by Jon Kabat-Zinn;
3. Project Personal Freedom, by Kingsley Gallup; and
4. Lucky Jim, by Kingsley Amis (a novel).
LJ
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Hi earlgrey,
I just finished Team of Rivals by Doris Kearns. The story of how, Abraham Lincoln, an unknown country politician led the nation through the Civil War.
I'm halfway through Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth. Check out her Ted Talk
I've been dipping in and out of Flappers and Philosophers: an anthology of F. Scott Fitzgerald short stories. Light Relief
If you're interested in finding out more about BPD treatment and diagnosis. BPD Borderline Personality Disorder: A Clinical Guideby John G. Gunderson.
Schema Therapy: Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program To End Negative Behaviour And Feel Great Again by Jeffrey E. Young
Hope the op goes well
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Another book that I like is
The Art of Possibility
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