I need help. Need to know how to handle this disorder.

[Depression = 72% of members]

I am new to this so bear with me.  My husband has all the symptoms of BPD and we are so close to being separated.  I am trying to understand this disorder & work with him because we have 2 children involved.  I need help to know what to do.

[Farmgirl40]

I am new to this so bear with me.  My husband has all the symptoms of BPD and we are so close to being separated.  I am trying to understand this disorder & work with him because we have 2 children involved.  I need help to know what to do.

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[Farmgirl40]

He is acting like a child and being very verbally abusive to me.

[Naughty Nibbler]

Welcome Farmgirl40

I'm sorry to hear that your husband has BPD traits.  I'm glad to hear that you are trying to understand the disorder and work with him.  Is he willing to go to counseling with you? 

What can make a difference is how you interact with him and react to him.  Whether he goes to counseling or not, the only thing you can control is yourself.  There are a lot of good workshops here and communication skills that can be helpful. 

The article below is a good place to start. 
The title is: The Do's and Dont's of a BPD Relationship.
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=62266.0;all

Check out the directory below.  You can look over the list of workshops for various categories of help.  If you take note of a particular reference number, you can then go to the 2nd link below and look for the reference number that corresponds with a particular lesson.

WORKSHOP DIRECTORY
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=296645.0

THE LEARNING CENTER
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=36.0

Check out the Do's and Don't and let us know what you think.