Obsessing

[Anduman]

Basically my wife tends to obsess over things and over analyse things.  I have pointed this out to her and she is aware of this.  Because of this behaviour she does tend to drag things out a lot.  If we discuss something she tends to go over and over and over and over it.  Grateful for any advice on this.  Thanks. 

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[VitaminC]

Hi Anduman,

You are welcome here. Do you suspect your wife of having BPD? You can check some of the Perspective Articles over here in the banner on the right --->.

The degree to which we analyse something is personal and what's too much is quite subjective. I have a friend, who irritates me intensely because of his habit / ability to sort something with one sentence. To me, the conversation has just started, to him there's no reason to think about it any further. I am sure he is just as confused by my interest in continuing to think about it as I am by his lack of interest.

How do you deal with the discussions? Can you give an example of a recent issue in which your wife over-analysed something?

You might find this article on listening with empathy helpful. https://bpdfamily.com/content/listen-with-empathy