He has threatened to move out

[losthope1234]

@pook...thank you so much for your continued support..i will try to put it down soon..

@once removed - thank you so much for the link. I had no idea about this stages, I'm glad you pointed it out. It's really something to look out for and I took some time to reflect upon this. Even though I am at a pretty confused stage right now, and I acknowledge that I sometimes even imagine what it would be like to get a divorce. But looking deep down, I still can't think of a world without him. It's true that I am emotionally kind of withdrawn, but somehow I feel this is in a healthy way, in the sense that if this would have been like before, I would think of all the childhood memories and cry all day. This time i am not doing that. More particularly, i am putting in effort to keep those memories away and I am succeeding, which is 1st time in ever. Also, i feel that i should seek help for myself first, I am also not good at effectively setting boundaries and so on. So if I have to re-start the relationship, as in staying together, I should be more prepared myself, as to how to handle the blame games and rages. In general, we are sending emojis everyday. These stickers and emojis have always played a big role in communicating our emotions, and even the simple ones have great "inner meanings" that only we understand in each other. I'm kind of happy that he is sending those and i am replying. In the meantime, I am actively looking for a therapist and after my work evaluation (by the end of this month) I will more proactively start to consider the steps I can take to break this status quo. To be even more honest, I am more concerned this time because my in-laws are in scene. All these 18years, problems were always been between me and him so I somehow managed them fine but this time the in-laws have played a big role in him moving out, I am still figuring out a wise way to tackle them effectively.

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[losthope1234]

@once removed - still, thanks for highlighting this, i'll give this more thoughts.. it's also true that i have been testing myself whether i am being able to cope being mentally detached from him and doing fine on my own (mentality) such that I can ultimately seek divorce..i am testing this repeatedly and this incident has given be the opportunity for it too..a part of me is indeed too tired to always 'fix' stuff.. but it seems like i still can't, at all.. even though I think of divorce, it's pretty superficial, whenever i put it in serious perspectives, I end up crying and devastated.. but it's an important point, i'll still consider this more carefully..