Partner threatening divorce, not sure what to do

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Starting off by saying that I love my pwBPD and do not want them to go. There is a matter of issues that I was working on fixing but pwBPD is threatening divorce and started moving out the other week. I recognize I am not perfect, but I am also not what they're trying to make me out to be. They are splitting on me and have gone to the point of contacting my distant family about it, let alone our close friends. I am lost on what to do because I'm normally the person that calms them down when they do this to our friends, but I don't know how to proceed when I'm inside the storm.

Help and guidance is much needed

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