I need help

[Daddy3times]

Hi so I'm new here. I've been going to couples therapy with my fiancée . I had fears she was cheating and would always bring it up and she would deny it and swear up and down. This past Saturday her exs girlfriend sent me 10 pages of text messages she found between her boy and my fiancée (they dated in highscjool). So in the messages they were talking about getting together to sleep together . Wheater she had to sneak out wile I was sleeping or tell me I was staying late at work and meet him in the parking lot of his job. She also offered to skip work entirely and drive to his house. On the last page of their texts she admitted she cheated on me 2-3 times and it makes her "sound bad but she's not a bad person." He replied with it's about to be 4 times and she came back with its only cheating if you get caught . I found this out this past Saturday and she started cheating back in April with another guy. They were snap chatting and planned to meet up. She actually had her friend talk her into sleeping with this guy and the friend even drove her to his house so she wouldn't get caught by me.  I knew something was gonna happen with this guy but she denied it . She actually bragged in the texts I was sent how one night she was at this guys house and didn't get home Til 352 am and I woke up at 4am and she was almost caught. We were engaged living in an apartment with our 3 kids. After I found this out I packed all 3 kids up and moved out. I took everything pretty much cause it was all in my name . This completely blindsided me. After reading the nasty sex talk she had with her ex and finding out she cheated on me with the guy I feared I would still take her back today . I love her and I gave her everything. I don't know what to do

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[Lost-love-mind]

 :)BPD family is perfect for you to vent. Plus the feedback is great.
I'm just trying to keep busy to forget the tattered 2 mos. since my breakup with my ex BPD.
I had to let go of any images of my ex with someone new. It just kept me stuck.
Your situation is different due to your intimate involvement. Someone will surely give you good advice. Hang in there.

[onelittleladybug]

Hi Daddy3Times and

I'm sorry for what brought you here but I'm glad you're with us.  We help and support each other here.

Thats a lot to deal with, I can understand you feeling hurt and confused. Has anything new developed since you posted? How is she dealing with the separation? Has she been diagnosed with BPD?

Keep us posted on how things are going for you. Hang in there.