I just ended the relationship - and he thinks we can still fix it

[donkey2016]

www.abuseandrelationships.org/Content/Survivors/leaving.html
 
Hi again,

Another link on the same web site - that might be good for you to read.
donkey 2016

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[Maya60]

He's a very good psych. My mom also visited him for problems with her narcsistic father lately. He's specialized in anxiety, personality disorders and family related issues. So perfect for this situation

 Yes I am very careful and dont meet up with my partner alone now. He's in his sad mood now but I do not know what will happen. Will he give up, be angry or maybe harm himself... .
I just stay at my parents place for a while.

[Maya60]

www.abuseandrelationships.org/Content/Survivors/leaving.html
 
Hi again,

Another link on the same web site - that might be good for you to read.
donkey 2016

Thank you! It gives me some insight on how this could develop in the next few days

[so_overit]

Only love is not enough for me to keep up with this difficult relationship. It's making me a less stable person. I have a very weak spot for the nice version of him and I try so hard to NOT give in. I know the cyclus will continue and I'll ne in the same situation in about two months...
Thats not what I want with my life  

So good to see it with clear eyes though. Only you can know when enough is enough. I kept holding on to the promises of change, because of my kids. In hindsight, when I read my journal (started early 2016), I am ashamed that I held on for the kids, I put them in harms way! I also had a weak spot for the nice version, and he really can be nice, but his illness takes him over more often than not... .and the cycle goes on and on. I am not trying to be negative nelly, but your words could be mine... .except that I've got the littles getting hurt too.

[Maya60]

We just called because we had to talk about my home. He cant find any place to stay so I hope he can stay at his brothers place I said.

Anyway. He started again about us. How he wants me back, how sick he feels, how he misses me and how he wil do any any anything to maken it work this time.

I told him again that I chose for myself and that I gave him many chances before. So I am no more capable of continuing this relationship again. If he really wanted it to work, he should have taken the responsibility back then.

I feel so confused. I care about it him. It hurts so bad.