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Last bank holiday my BPDxgf, who recently started seeing again, had a house party. She got so drunk and obnoxious that me and 2other friends went to their house. In the morning I went back to get my things and found my BPDxgf was saying she had been robbed. She was missing money out of her purse and tobacco and cannabis. We also descovered my wallet had been taken. I cancelled my card, called the police but no evidence and too many suspects so cops said nothing could be done. Few days later my BPDxgf asks if she and her friend come to mine and see my man for more weed. I don't like her friend so said she could come but not him. And then she accused me of being the thief! This is all via txt btw. I txt bk, tried to call her but it's been 4days now and she will not reply or answer anything! I didn't ___ing take anything but she has told all her neighbours and the ppl that were at the house party. But I'm not being given any chance to clear my name! This isn't fair!
What do I do? Apart from ___ her off out my life for good?
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not trying to "solve the crime" but, first thing that came to my mind is the possibility that she could have taken your wallet and conjured up the rest of the story that her stuff was "stolen"? Now shifting the blame on to you. Projection.
just a side thought to consider, asides from that I wouldnt care less what rumours she spreads, if they are the type of people who are too stupid to realise there is always two sides to the story and will just blame you based on what she says, do you really care what they think?
it sounds like you are being made the scapegoat so the attention gets taken away from the real culprit, ie, she likely knows who took it even if it wasnt herself who did.
if you were the person who really stole these items you wouldnt go so far as to phone the police about it as a back-story, people dont do that. dont go around defending yourself, discard her would be the the logical way to show everyone you wont have someone go around and blacken your name, if you keep her as a friend after this, it will cause a big question mark over your character. she is trouble id see this as an early warning of worse to come if you choose to stay 'friends'.
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