What do you think are the chances for someone with BPD to cure without therapy?

[pearlsw]

in almost all of the ways, I am codependent.

I am also old already, so it's not like I will start now some 15 years long psychotherapy in order to cure codependency

That and the fact that the BPDgf was beautiful, this is why I supported all the abuses, violence, insults and anger
that gf made

What are the options and possibilities for her to return?

Hi childhoodgone,

How old are you?

Have you done any therapy? Are you in therapy now?

What makes you think she would want you back? Are you in contact?

sincerely,

pearl.

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[childhoodgone]

I went to 2 therapy sessions. They didn't help with anything, I was much more depressed afterwards.

I can't seem to find the options of just getting back to a good state

[pearlsw]

I went to 2 therapy sessions. They didn't help with anything, I was much more depressed afterwards.

I can't seem to find the options of just getting back to a good state

How old are you?

What makes you think she would want you back? Are you in contact?

Two therapy sesssions isn't  much really. One getting to know you meeting and one more. With a situation as deep and complex as yours it is hard to imagine therapy not helping to some degree - if you make a commitment to it and stick with it.

Thoughts?

[braveSun]

Two therapy sessions isn't  much really. One getting to know you meeting and one more. With a situation as deep and complex as yours it is hard to imagine therapy not helping to some degree - if you make a commitment to it and stick with it.

Thoughts? 

Hey childhoodgone!   I've kept an eye on your thread for a while. I see that you are making some progress in your understanding. I've been having difficulties with accepting the whole truth of my situation with my loved one. Going to therapy was super helpful to sort things out. What's hers, what's mine, how to proceed with my own boundaries, figuring out my own stuff. You mentioned co-dependency. For me the untangling did not exactly happen at the beginning of my therapy sessions, but after a steady course of regular sessions.

How are you doing now, with all the good information people have put out?

pearlsw has good questions. Take your time. Anything that sticks out for you?

[childhoodgone]

Hey childhoodgone!   I've kept an eye on your thread for a while. I see that you are making some progress in your understanding. I've been having difficulties with accepting the whole truth of my situation with my loved one. Going to therapy was super helpful to sort things out. What's hers, what's mine, how to proceed with my own boundaries, figuring out my own stuff. You mentioned co-dependency. For me the untangling did not exactly happen at the beginning of my therapy sessions, but after a steady course of regular sessions.

How are you doing now, with all the good information people have put out?

I tried to reach out to new people.

I was publicly humiliated  as "you do everything to be a victim!"  and I have received only the usual advices: "Stay strong! Be a man, not a doormat! "

As the reactions are so similar, it creates the impression that I talk to  bots.

I will continue to go to therapy, but 1 hour per week is very little.

I am unable to find pleasant activities that I can do by myself, I am terrified that I have to stay alone most of the time now.