It feels like it is over

[seagrove]

we have been married for nearly six years but dated 5 years prior.  he has been overly distant for the last few months.  no touching or loving or even kind words.  there's a tone in his voice when he speaks to me like he is disgusted.  he never uses that tone with anyone but me.  he is making plans to opt me out of any financial gain upon his death.  his health isn't awful but it's not good either.  I have no clue what I have done to trigger this behavior.  he says I am ungrateful because my car is dirty and I left lint in the dryer.  he says I need to start saving my money.  he says he pays all the bills and therefore he gets to make all the rules at the house.  I have a full time job but I sold my house and my car and most of my furniture to move in with him two years after we married.  he picked out all the furniture and paid for it.   I love this man but I'm at a loss as to how to bring him back around to civility at the least.  I don't know how to talk to him.  help?

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[Radcliff]

I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling, but am glad you've found us.  We understand, and many members here have faced what you've described.  Can you tell us a little more about your situation?  Are things relatively steady, or are there good periods alternating with bad periods?

RC

[RolandOfEld]

Hi seagrove and joining Radcliff in welcoming you! Please do share more details about your situation as well as what finally brought you here.

I also suggest you start posting on other members' threads to gain context on your own.

Does he have the habit of threatening you like with the financial plan, and if yes does he ever follow through?

Sending you strength,
RolandOfEld