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« Reply #30 on: July 06, 2019, 11:57:11 AM »

I am hearing from a lot of people how fond they were of my mother. She certainly was charming and generous with nearly everyone including my father whom she treated nicely when he was present, and talked terribly about him and how she wanted to divorce him behind his back. I literally spent hundreds of hours listen to her badmouth everyone under the sun, yet not too many people got to see this side of her. I feel that her children were really the only people that knew her and saw sides of her that would have alienated nearly everyone else.

I had the same experience with my mother. My childhood friends thought she was incredibly wonderful. Of course they never saw the side of her that my father and I experienced.
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« Reply #31 on: July 11, 2019, 11:53:22 AM »

It has been a week since mom passed away. I have been a little bit sad, though the main feeling is one of having a tremendous burden lifted from my shoulders knowing mom can not invalidate me any more. I am suddenly very busy tackling projects I didn't feel capable of getting done before. I still have the challenge of dealing with my siblings with BPD and the family members that scapegoat others, and this challenge does not seem to be so overwhelming anymore. I really appreciate all of you who reached out during the time my mother was dying and afterwards. I am hoping that for all those who still have a BPD in their lives and can't so easily walk away, that some day you will be free of having to deal with this type of person on a regular basis and/or having to deal with them at all.
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« Reply #32 on: July 13, 2019, 02:09:49 PM »

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The Fallout From My Mom's Recent Death (She had BPD.)
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