Got engaged after 5 months. Now she is gone. What can I do?

[once removed]

I am thinking of leave them later or to her old neighbour.. please help me.!

if you need to get rid of the stuff, those are two ways to do it. another might be to rent a storage unit, pay for it for a month, and let her know its there.

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[Yoke]

Thanx @once removed. It does not work like in the states like in sweden. You dont rent a storage unit here in my country. And why should i pay for her stuff? Its easier to give them back to her or her neighbour. The stuff is hers to keep or throw away...i have sent her towels by the postoffice to her to pick up there.. two days ago. a gift from me because she has moved to a new apartement. She always talked about how much she love these expensive towels, but would never buy them self, and they would fit in her apartement and just hang there. She love furnishing so much.  And yesterday i  got a notice that she picked it out from the postoffice ,a day  after i sent it. I never wrote the the senders name- me. She may have understood it was me because of the handwriting and from my town the package came from... i dont know if she just threw it away when she opend it or took it.. she has neither sent me an angry textmessage.. nothing. But am almost 100% sure she guessed and know now its coming from me.  What do you think of it? Was it a bad idea to send the present?... do u think she would give me an angry textmessage soon because i disturb her and maybe her new relationship?  After she devaluated me, 3 weeks after, i sent her a letter and then she wrote me a textmessage full of rage! So why not now? Please respond please

[Scarlet Phoenix]

Hi Yoke, I understand why it hurts to see her things and have them around you every day. They are powerful tokens of your relationship.

You have the right to just keep them, of course. But since you want to get rid of them, do it in a way that feels good for you. She knows you have them, she has shown no interest. So you don't owe it to her to send it to her or give it to someone she knows. Do what feels good to you, whether that's giving it away online or selling it or bringing it to a recycle place or a second hand shop. Or just putting it in the garbage. Whatever feels right for you. As a curtesy to your ex, you can let her know that by XX date, you will remove her items.

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