I've been trying to ignore it for 20 years

[WaxxingGibbous]

My stomach is in knots writing this. I'm pretty sure my wife of 40 years has BPD. I've been trying to ignore it for 20 years. Deciding to take some action. This is a first step.

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[Harri]

Hi and welcome.

When you are ready, I hope you share more.  In the meantime, settle in and read and post as you see fit.  We will listen and help support you as you decide how you want to proceed.