So...have you ever asked him what this is based on?
FF
No, I haven’t. Now that I think about it, he’s very big on things being done or decided on together and if they’re not, it’s kind of a “why even be married” kind of thing. There have been times I’ve told him when there’s a decision to be made regarding SS, I’m happy to give input and discuss, but the decision has to be made by him and his Ex. He gets sad and sulky about it. But it goes across the board into all other types of areas too. He used to get moody if I wanted to go to bed before him because he felt like we should go together. He’s better about that now.
Last week, when he was calm and we were having a discussion about the incident Monday night, he told me that a part of him believes and has always believed that this won’t last and I’ll go away. I didn’t tell him that would never happen because I didn’t want to make promises I can’t be sure I can keep. Instead I told him I had no plans or intention of going anywhere and my goal was to make this work. That’s what we should focus on and work toward.
