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Star838
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« on: August 04, 2020, 11:16:46 PM »

Hello. I am new to this board. I am a young adult who’s mom has undiagnosed BPD. Her rage comes on without warning and I am usually the target of her rage. I just dealt with her most recent rage episode and am still trying to heal from it. Does anyone have advice on how on to internalize her words and rage?
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner’s ex
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« Reply #1 on: August 05, 2020, 11:28:42 AM »

Hi Star838,

Welcome to the group  Welcome new member (click to insert in post)

I'm so sorry you are being the target of your mom's rage.  Virtual hug (click to insert in post) No one deserves to be verbally abused. It always makes me think of the old memorex commercial (you're probably too young to remember it) Just sitting there while rage blows you away.  Frustrated/Unfortunate (click to insert in post)

When your mom rages, how do you typically respond?  Do you sit back and take it (like my memorex man)?  Do you fight back...argue?  Are you able to walk away? Do other family members come to your defense?  Just trying to get an idea of what is happening during these interactions.

Hope to hear more of your story.

I'm really glad you decided to jump in and post, I have found this site really helpful, supportive, full of information and tools that can improve things and I know you will too.

Take Care Virtual hug (click to insert in post)
Panda39



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« Reply #2 on: August 06, 2020, 02:13:19 PM »

Star838, just want to stop by and join Panda39 in welcoming you!  Welcome new member (click to insert in post)

Do you live near your mom? Can you explain what you mean by internalizing her words and rage?

We look forward to getting to know you and hearing more about your story!
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