His lies ruined my job interview

[TeskoSD]

I haven't spoken a word of this to my SO. I don't know that I will, for I don't see how talking with him about this could possibly go well.

I was invited to interview for a competitive position. And I was so thrilled! Since it's competitive there are a lot of steps to go through. I got to something like step 3 out of 10 and it went off the rails today during a 1-on-1 interview.

The interview took place on video, and the interviewer commented on the background - I'm in this really nice place. I shared with her that I'd gone out of town to attend a meditation retreat, and she was seeing the beautiful place where I am currently staying. Then I told her the timing was perfect because my husband teaches at X College, and they started classes this week. That it was good timing for me to be away so he could get through the first week - with doing virtual classes and learning how to use the technology, he really needed the time to himself to be able to focus.

Then my interviewer got very silent and got this upset look on her face. She asked me if my husband really teaches at X College. I got really nervous and confused - um, yes, he teaches there. More silence. Then she says ookkkaaayyy, that her child attends X place, and they don't start classes until next week.  And at this point I really did not know what to say. I can hear my heart pounding in my ears. I stumbled over a bunch of words trying to tell her that my husband said his classes started this week.

And then she said she was ending the interview, and we are not moving forward with the process. She said that my inability to remember something as important as when X College's school year starts tells her that I am prone to forgetting or confusing critical details and that doesn't translate well into how I would perform in the job. And that this whole conversation has made her feel very uncomfortable.

I was so stunned. After I calmed down, I went on the school's website to see if I could find out anything about my husband's classes. And she is right - they don't start until next week.

I've been talking to my husband all week. He's been telling me about his classes and how hard it's been to teach virtually. That his first class didn't go well, and he's worried about the rest of the school year. I even sent him a present on Monday wishing him a happy first day.

So I know I didn't misunderstand him; he lied to me when he said classes started on Monday, and he's been lying to me all week with his phony updates about classes that aren't even happening.

I don't know how to bring this up without my husband getting upset. And even if he doesn't, the most that will happen is he will say yes, he lied to me. Then he will go off about the interviewer and how unfair/messed up it is that she stopped the interview process over something so trivial. And he will end with saying it's a good thing after all, I was spared from working with such awful, judgmental people. If he says he's sorry, it'll be "I'm so sorry you had to go through such a horrible interview". Or something along those lines.

I know I can't force him to feel remorseful or to change his behavior. I'm not certain if it's possible for him to see how his behavior has impacted my career, which in turn impacts us.

Any ideas about how to handle this situation?

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