Hi Josie2020: My therapist wants me to start working on changing my beliefs about my mom, from "if she blows up it will be the end of the world and I can't handle it" to "if she blows up, it may suck but I will be okay." Does anyone have any recommendations on self-help books, sites that may help someone to change such a deep-seated belief? Or exercises, strategies to help with this? Thanks!
I'm a big fan of an app (for both Android & Apple) called Insight Timer. It has a lot of free mindfulness exercises & meditations. It, also, has free daily live sessions from various presenters. The premium service has some helpful courses to take. One course on an "Anxiety Toolkit" from Andrea Watcher has some helpful mental exercises & strategies.
Andrea Watcher, also, has a website. She is a therapist & you might find some of her blog information helpful:
Self-Parenting: What’s Your Style?
www.andreawachter.com/self-parenting-whats-your-style/Upgrading Your Internal Soundtrack
www.andreawachter.com/upgrading-your-internal-soundtrack/Healing What You’re Feeling When You’re Reeling
www.andreawachter.com/healing-what-youre-feeling-when-youre-reeling/The 3 blog articles deal with internal dialogs. Your therapist is trying to coach you to change your script. Perhaps if you can check out the blogs, you might find something you want to discuss in an upcoming therapy session.
I'm in the process of transcribing a lesson from Andrea's audio course on "Heart to Heart With Anxious Part". If I see that you are still around, when I finish the instructions, I'll post it in your thread. It guides you towards a kinder inner dialog.