sex via BDP's...or many of them anyhow is the arena they play their traumas out in...in that sense, it becomes as meaningless as anything else in the dynamic...the point is stop believing...
Well said, my friend. I really believe a good part of what we had was fantasy on her part and maybe some on my end as well (for me to actually think the relationship would work out given the circumstances). What was real was most likely what she felt only in the moment.
It was odd because my mother actually ran into my ex last Thursday. She said my ex actually called out to her and stopped when she saw mom. My mother said she just said hello to my ex to be cordial and just kept on walking. Mom, along with several of my close friends and relatives that knew my ex personally really felt duped by her just as I did. She told most of them (along with her own family) how amazing I was and that she wanted to be married to me someday. Her own family was just as baffled. Then she was gone at the drop of a hat. I'd be willing to bet 1/2 of my next paycheck that she's repeating the same cycle with her new man and his family. Rinse and repeat...
