Hi
thank you, I actually wrote the post last night and not quite sure how I got the poll thing added either and didn't finish before I sent so I apologise
Sorry moral of the post, I'm frustrated with how when we was trying to reconcile he got drunk and then ignored me for 2 days, I've been trying to communicate better with him and to some points that has been better then yesterday I spoke to him as usual and then said I would message him tomorrow as saw my friend and her daughter with my daughter in the evening as the girls wanted to do make up and things etc. I then get a message from exbpd oh BTW partner "saying you don't need to justify anything your single and your your own person". I'm actually surprised by that message he was drunk 2 days in a row and I got the silent treatment. and I see it as not trying to repair anything with us, is that just me being sensitive? all I know is the message annoyed me and I know I cant go and say it annoyed me either.
so I'm back to thinking actually, I wouldn't say that to you. He still hasn't respected any of my boundaries. I only have 3 in place. I'm still in every round about way blamed for everything I don't retaliate but it seems to me I'm the only one trying to sort out the realationship.
Any words of advice I would appreciate.
thank you for taking the time to read my post.
Hi K
Thanks for the clarification. I see you are on the bettering board. Does that mean you want to preserve this relationship?
If so - what are your specific reasons?
Just like any relationship - there are reasons to stay and there are reasons to leave. If one of your reasons to stay is that you "hope he will change", then please think again. He will not change.
I'd invite you to create that list of reasons to stay and then we can chat more?
Thoughts?
In the meantime, I hear your frustration. It's okay to be frustrated and it's more than okay to take care of your own needs lest your loose yourself in that frustration.
Hang in there.
Rev