Hi all,
It feels like she’s cast a spell over me and although I’ve been on a relationship for 2 years now, it seems she has a habit of getting back into my mind like casting a spell which is hard to shake off… anybody experienced this before after a long time of being separated? The logical side of me is like run run I’ve got away lightly as I’m still alive and still have family and friends and my health (just about as the stress she caused me is still causing me lasting issues)
Many thanks (love this amazing group)
Yes I did. I am in year three now, and I still get the shakes every now and then, but they are far less. You said that she was physically abusive? Mine was too.
I have an expression now - Give your body the time to catch up to your mind.
Last summer, I suffered true PTSD (which is not the same as having flash backs or dreams or ruminations) I got triggered without really knowing it. When that happened and I realized it, I did some trauma work with a T and that lightened the load.
Can you share what some of your symptoms are. You say that "it's like a spell". Can you say more about that specifically?
Abuse is a very difficult thing - and some people need to learn to live with its effects like people need to learn to live with being diabetic.
I hope this makes sense. I did an MA research paper on the topic of male victims of abuse. There are markers that can be identified.
Anyway, if you'd like to start a thread about this, I'd be happy to join in and add what I can.
Hang in there.
Rev