That's awesome! How long did it take you to get to this point?
I have noticed the health improvements and DRASTIC improvements in sleep as I detach and continue to remain NC. It was helpful to see that you noticed the same types of things.
And not having to endure the constant, unending stress ---- it always seems to be there in the background, even when nothing stress-worthy seems to be happening. Its just stressful knowing at some level, something deep in the recesses of my mind was screaming at me to get away from her, even when she was being the "nice" version of her personality.
I would agree on the stress part, in my case it was being prepped so if she went on a tirade, or went all racist rant, or, or, or, or, ya know? Thank the Gods that I had work where I had to be onsite 5 days out of the week. If I had been doing the work from home, SMH, I prolly wouldn't be here typing this. Work was a refuge.
Lets see been a journey since 12 months ago. Been one of fits and starts but general trend has been going towards more and more health. Better sleep, better sight, hearing, even smell. Seems like my pattern is progress and plateau for a while, then more progress and another plateau. Along the way I've had aha moments of how much of my behavior had been based off my attempt in keeping the exBPD in a decent space emotionally. You can guess how well that worked.
got the short end of the financial stick in the divorce but the peace and freedom, oh mercy, can't put a price tag on that.
Wishing you all the best