New member reaching out

[Lifewideopen]

Hello I'm new here and have a fiance that has bpd and I'm looking at some new ways to help me cope

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[Pook075]

Hello I'm new here and have a fiance that has bpd and I'm looking at some new ways to help me cope

Hello and welcome.  Could you share a little more detail with what's going on?

I ask because the goal here is not to "cope" if things are going sideways.  It's to strengthen communication and the relationship.
 Have you (or your fiancée) spoke to a therapist?

[SaltyDawg]

Hello I'm new here and have a fiance that has bpd and I'm looking at some new ways to help me cope

LifeWideOpen,



We are here to listen and support you emotionally.

"Coping" is one way to exist in a BPD relationship; however, I am going to suggest a more aggressive strategy to "manage it", otherwise it will eventually consume you.

If you have accepted her BPD diagnosis, I would recommend the book "Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life" by Margalis Fjelstad on how to manage the relationship to a point where it does not consume all of your energy.

There are many other resources, please keep coming back.

I am sure you are emotionally drained, be kind to yourself and do some self-care whatever that might look like for you.

Take care.

SD