16 years later!

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hello everyone. I’ll keep it simple and to the point.

I was married to someone with bpd. Tried to save our marriage many times but was unsuccessful to say the least. She had issues with substance abuse, cutting, suicidal tendencies. She left me in 2009 for her drug pusher ( basically.) She would come back to me every now and then, but would always go back with her new guy.

After 5 years of trying to «  save » her, I finally agreed to let her go.

I started dating ( took some courage) and prayed real hard to find a good woman. Thank God, I actually did! In 2020. Married her in 2022. I have a wonderful woman who is a blessing to me.

My advice to you guys who are trying to save your spouse….you cannot save them. Only God can and only THEY can decide to go get the help they need. For those of you who do believe in God ( and even those who may not ) trust God for strength, wisdom and good judgement. Keep moving forward and don’t give up. It WILL get better! 



I promise you, it will get better

[cupidsdead]

Hello everyone. I’ll keep it simple and to the point.

I was married to someone with bpd. Tried to save our marriage many times but was unsuccessful to say the least. She had issues with substance abuse, cutting, suicidal tendencies. She left me in 2009 for her drug pusher ( basically.) She would come back to me every now and then, but would always go back with her new guy.

After 5 years of trying to «  save » her, I finally agreed to let her go.

I started dating ( took some courage) and prayed real hard to find a good woman. Thank God, I actually did! In 2020. Married her in 2022. I have a wonderful woman who is a blessing to me.

My advice to you guys who are trying to save your spouse….you cannot save them. Only God can and only THEY can decide to go get the help they need. For those of you who do believe in God ( and even those who may not ) trust God for strength, wisdom and good judgement. Keep moving forward and don’t give up. It WILL get better! 



I promise you, it will get better

[Under The Bridge]

Good to see you've now found happiness.

Time is indeed a great healer; it lets you see things more objectively and dulls the rose-coloured glasses we all look through when the final breakup happens.  We see 'the whole picture' as if from a distannce and we end up thinking 'How the hell could I have put up with that for so long??'.  A BPD relationship is probably the most intense relationship we'll ever go through so impossible to just forget quickly and move on with life.. ironically, only the BPD person seems able to do that!

It is truly wonderful to be in a relationship where you're not constantly on guard about everything and wondering when the next blow-up happens. Long may your happy marriage continue.