Confused

[Depression = 72% of members]

I think my husband has bpd but not sure. We go through a continuous pattern of him getting angry or triggered by things-it could be simple like the way I phrase something, how I said it, etc. it is so difficult to have normal conversations if we disagree or have conflict because once he snaps-there is no reasoning with him. He says terrible mean things but when it’s over he is back to his normal kind and loving self. Asking him to help me with the bills is even difficult because for some reason he gets offended. I am so drained because I feel like I am walking on egg shells. After every single conflict or argument, it feels like I am the one at fault no matter what.I have read a lot on bpd because my therapist said it sounds like my husband could be dealing with this. I don’t know how to cope

[Viper74]

I think my husband has bpd but not sure. We go through a continuous pattern of him getting angry or triggered by things-it could be simple like the way I phrase something, how I said it, etc. it is so difficult to have normal conversations if we disagree or have conflict because once he snaps-there is no reasoning with him. He says terrible mean things but when it’s over he is back to his normal kind and loving self. Asking him to help me with the bills is even difficult because for some reason he gets offended. I am so drained because I feel like I am walking on egg shells. After every single conflict or argument, it feels like I am the one at fault no matter what.I have read a lot on bpd because my therapist said it sounds like my husband could be dealing with this. I don’t know how to cope

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