Pwbpd never learned how to share

[Boogie74]

My fiancé seems to have a very strong anxiety response to household sharing of foods, drinks- almost anything.  I know it’s not specific to me, as when we started dating, her family shared a story about a situation where she came home one weekend from college and got into a MASSIVE blow out argument with her father because he ate can of Spaghettios and that was “hers”

This now translates to my relationship with her.  Constantly, she insists on not just marking “who’s is who”s” on soda, cereal, frozen pizza and meals, juice, chocolate milk, cookies, etc.

I don’t know for sure the root cause of this issue (I imagine it might be because she felt like she never was given a fair opportunity to share when she was younger- but I don’t know).  She gets MASSIVELY angry at me for drinking “her juice” or eating “her chips” or “her frozen meals”.

It’s often followed by me apologizing for eating or drinking something (if it’s a reasonable item that can’t be shared).  I don’t engage when she goes off the handle when I eat from a party or family size bag of chips or something. 

I’m often accused of being selfish, inconsiderate, a narcissist… take your pick.

I don’t care to eat most of what she likes and I do get things that I enjoy for myself.   But she insists on acting like we are roommates or coworkers that have to mark what is hers and what is mine.

Anyone else have this issue?

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