Don't know how to take things. Some insight please

[benny2]

I am so confused at this point and don't know what to think. I have been going back and forth with my pwuBPD bf for almost a year now since I moved out. I realize that I moved in to quickly after his divorce and his feelings for his exwife were not resolved, not to mention she does not want him with me so she did everything in her power to break us up. 2 days ago he opened up to me and said he can now tell me for the first time he has nothing for her and I am the one he wants to be with. He said he wants to open up his heart to me and make it work. Ok, knowing his ever changing mind, I did not put alot of faith into it. I told him that he has a problem when he gets close to someone, he pushes them away. He agreed. He for the first time told me the truth about her coming back last weekend and spending the weekend with her. He said there was nothing there anymore. I told him the only way it is going to work is if he breaks all ties with her. I fear this is not going to happen. Now last night, just 2 days later from confessing his feelings towards me he is saying nothing. I asked him if the talk we had meant he wants to be with me, he replied "maybe". Maybe? I asked him if he is changing his mind already and he said no, but why did he respond to me wth doubt again? I just don't know how much more of this I can take. I want to make this work, but I cannot understand how he comes on so strong one day and completly backs off the next. I'm not sure what he wants from me.

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[benny2]

I'm ready to throw in the towel. I just texted him that I do love him and want to make this work. His response was "oh yeah". I can't handle this anymore. His emotions must have been in overdrive a few days ago, and now he's slamming on the breaks again. I thought maybe he needed to hear some reassurence from me, but guess I was wrong again.