amiright
Great you found the courage to post and tell us your story after reading "only" some time here. So sorry to hear about your very difficult relationship.
Physical violence is something which no one should endure.
The ongoing expressed hate for your daughter is a clear sign about her mental problem.
I think it is really time for you to think about your boundaries and values.
Workshop - US: Physically abusive relationships: Are you in one?Please stay tuned, amiright. We can support you.
Surnia