I took the personality questionnaire on another thread and I scored the highest in paranoia, avoidance, and OCD, which makes me part of the "anxious, avoidant" cluster.
In my journey of self-exploration/improvement, I have been thinking alot about the paranoia and avoidance scores. For me it's a chicken and egg situation of how I got this way.
I moved around alot as a kid=trust issues
Both my parents had mental health issues and I often felt I was in a little crazy bubble. I longed to get out and connect with "normal people" but was scared I wouldn't be accepted b/c I wasn't "normal"=trust issues
Both my parents instilled a belief system consisting of "people will try to con you" (dad) and "be careful; the world is full of people that might hurt you" (mom)=crazy trust issues
Made a baby with garden-variety A-hole who I discovered after leaving him had a gf since the year I was pregnant with our son=trust issues
Been a single mother virtually since my son's birth and have had to make all decisions about everything with very little support and have constant anxiety about life stressors=trust issues
The love of my life, the person I have been more vulnerable and real with than anyone else has BPD and therefore lets me down alot b/c of his limitations=trust issues
I think the paranoia is basically a symptom of PTSD, which is an anxiety d/o. I am working on reducing my feelings of anxiety, but I am also going deeper and looking at the root of the anxiety. The root is the compilation of the list I made above. So I am looking at reversing some of the beliefs instilled from my parents. I am working on reducing worry and being more mindful. I am trying to practice gratitude and radical acceptance. I am trying to go out of my comfort zone and make/stay connected to people instead of assuming they don't care about me b/c they are caught up in there stuff.
The book ":)aring to Trust" is helpful.
Be kind to yourself. Don't judge yourself. You are who you are and if you want to change, then change. If someone makes a comment either judgementally or out of concern, assume they said it out of concern and own it. It's not a paranoia as one would have with a thought d/o, like schizophrenia. It's more of a trust issue.
Take care and good luck on your journey.
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