Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
December 22, 2024, 07:25:35 AM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Kells76, Once Removed, Turkish
Senior Ambassadors: EyesUp, SinisterComplex
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
Skills we were never taught
98
A 3 Minute Lesson
on Ending Conflict
Communication Skills-
Don't Be Invalidating
Listen with Empathy -
A Powerful Life Skill
Setting Boundaries
and Setting Limits
Pages: [1]   Go Down
« previous next »
  Print  
Author Topic: Entering into a civil union today  (Read 923 times)
Scarlet Phoenix
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Together 9 years
Posts: 1155
« on: August 04, 2013, 05:48:49 PM »
My dBPDbf and I are entering into a civil union today  Smiling (click to insert in post) (A PACS for those of you familiar with the French system)

Since this is the board I mostly hang out at, I wanted to share it here. Here's hoping for a happy day!
Logged

~~ The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes short again and again ... and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly ~~ Become who you are ~~
RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING
This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members are welcomed to express frustration but must seek constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.
Suzn
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 3957
« Reply #1 on: August 04, 2013, 05:51:45 PM »
Congratulations Scarlet! Wishing you and yours a long life filled with happiness. 
Logged
“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.” ~Jacob M. Braude
123Phoebe
Staying and Undecided
********
Offline Offline

What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 2070
« Reply #2 on: August 04, 2013, 06:07:28 PM »
Hi Scarlet

Congratulations, and may your life together be filled with happy days galore
Logged
DreamFlyer99
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: married 30+ years
Posts: 1863
« Reply #3 on: August 04, 2013, 07:15:35 PM »
Congratulations Scarlet!

I don't know the French system, but keeping the union "civil" sounds like a great idea to me! Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)
Logged
Chosen
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 1479
« Reply #4 on: August 04, 2013, 08:25:54 PM »
Congrats Scarlet! 
Logged
KateCat
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Posts: 2907
« Reply #5 on: August 04, 2013, 08:39:58 PM »
Vive la France!

I hear from a friend in Paris that that was a very hard fought victory, and it is one that both she and her son are celebrating too. Congratulations!
Logged
Rockylove
******
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 827
« Reply #6 on: August 05, 2013, 06:28:50 PM »
Although I'm not familiar with the French system, I'm very happy that you're happy and wish you the best in every way possible, Scarlet!
Logged
connect
****
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Posts: 394
« Reply #7 on: August 05, 2013, 07:19:39 PM »
Congratulations to you both!

A special day you will always treasure 
Logged
babyducks
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 2920
« Reply #8 on: August 05, 2013, 08:27:47 PM »
Scarlet - all the best to you and yours.
Logged
What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us.
Blazing Star
******
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Relationship status: Been together 5 years
Posts: 844



WWW
« Reply #9 on: August 05, 2013, 09:40:48 PM »
Congrats! That's exciting! Hope you have a great day celebrating!

Love Blazing Star
Logged
Scarlet Phoenix
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Together 9 years
Posts: 1155
« Reply #10 on: August 06, 2013, 11:09:52 AM »
Thank you all, you're so sweet  

We had a nice lunch before the ceremony, then the ceremony (well, the signing of the papers), a quick photo outside, then he had to go back to work. I sent a text message in the afternoon saying that his parents and sister had called to congratulate which he didn't answers.

He came to see me in the evening (we don't live together at the moment) and he was tired and complaining about work. After some talk I said something like it was nice that his family had called to congratulate us and he got really mad saying he didn't want to talk about it (we entering into this union) every five minutes, that he thought I was ridiculous. I got upset but stayed calm, didn't feel like validating much though so I said that I was very happy about our big day and thought it was sad that he felt the need to crush my joy. He left. I cried.

Then he came back today with flowers "to celebrate our union", wanting to take me out to dinner tonight.

Oh, the joy of a BPD relationship!  Laugh out loud (click to insert in post)
Logged

~~ The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes short again and again ... and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly ~~ Become who you are ~~
zaqsert
****
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married, starting divorce process
Posts: 300
« Reply #11 on: August 06, 2013, 03:36:23 PM »
Congratulations, Scarlet Phoenix!

I'm sorry about the ups and downs, especially on your big day.

Logged
DreamFlyer99
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: married 30+ years
Posts: 1863
« Reply #12 on: August 07, 2013, 02:24:51 AM »
Quote from: zaqsert on August 06, 2013, 03:36:23 PM
Congratulations, Scarlet Phoenix!

I'm sorry about the ups and downs, especially on your big day.

Awwww-- what Zaqsert said! Sometimes they just don't know what to do with their feelings do they? I know my H can get really finger pointing at me when he's all confused about what he's feeling. Guess it takes the pressure off of them, at least in their heads?

So, what does a civil union mean?
Logged
Surnia
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: 8 y married, divorced since 2012-11-22
Posts: 3900
« Reply #13 on: August 07, 2013, 04:03:40 AM »
congratulations!  Enjoy your day and all the best for both of you!
Logged
“Don’t shrink. Don’t puff up. Stand on your sacred ground.”  Brené Brown
heartandwhole
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 3592
« Reply #14 on: August 07, 2013, 07:57:55 AM »
Congratulations Scarlet Phoenix!  Wishing you years and years of happiness. 
Logged
When the pain of love increases your joy, roses and lilies fill the garden of your soul.
Scarlet Phoenix
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Together 9 years
Posts: 1155
« Reply #15 on: August 07, 2013, 08:02:32 AM »
Thank you, Surnia and heartandwhole and Zaqsert and Dreamflyer!


Quote from: DreamFlyer99 on August 07, 2013, 02:24:51 AM
Awwww-- what Zaqsert said! Sometimes they just don't know what to do with their feelings do they? I know my H can get really finger pointing at me when he's all confused about what he's feeling. Guess it takes the pressure off of them, at least in their heads?

I think you're onto something there

Quote from: DreamFlyer99 on August 07, 2013, 02:24:51 AM
So, what does a civil union mean?

And I agree, it's a good idea to keep the union "civil" like you said earlier Laugh out loud (click to insert in post) It means that we have registered our partnership with the authorities and that we have more rights as partners. It was originally created for homosexual couples who were not allowed to get married in France, but more and more heterosexual couples do this instead of marriage. It's a sort of "marriage light", not quite all the rights you have as a married couple, but more than a non-registered couple.

And then there's the romantic aspect of it, to official enter into a union or partnership  
Logged

~~ The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes short again and again ... and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly ~~ Become who you are ~~
DreamFlyer99
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: married 30+ years
Posts: 1863
« Reply #16 on: August 08, 2013, 12:10:56 AM »
Huh! Interesting! Thanks for explaining. Smiling (click to insert in post)
Logged
Phoenix.Rising
*******
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 1021
« Reply #17 on: August 09, 2013, 09:07:51 PM »
Congratulations to you, Scarlet Phoenix!   Smiling (click to insert in post)
Logged
Scarlet Phoenix
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Together 9 years
Posts: 1155
« Reply #18 on: August 10, 2013, 03:24:05 AM »
Thank you my fellow Phoenix!
Logged

~~ The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes short again and again ... and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly ~~ Become who you are ~~
Rapt Reader
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Relationship status: married
Posts: 3626



WWW
« Reply #19 on: August 12, 2013, 09:56:48 PM »
Congratulations, Scarlet Phoenix!  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

Sorry I didn't know about this till just now (I've been reading on the Boards for the first time in awhile... . ). I hope everything goes great for the 2 of you!

  Rapt Reader
Logged
My Son's Recovery-In-Progress
Scarlet Phoenix
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Together 9 years
Posts: 1155
« Reply #20 on: August 13, 2013, 01:27:47 AM »
Thank you!
Logged

~~ The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes short again and again ... and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly ~~ Become who you are ~~
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?
Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
BPDFamily.com > Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) > Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup > Topic: Entering into a civil union today
 « previous next »
 
Jump to:  

Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife


Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!